Waiting too long
Parents can sometimes make the mistake of waiting until the very last minute, when applications have already been submitted or even during the release of college decisions, to consult with their children. Parents who jump in halfway through the process are more likely to miss out on the opportunity to be a guide and a reliable resource. Working with your child throughout the college process is essential make a list of colleges facilitate tours, attend informational sessions, and explore various options together. By scheduling more time together to focus on college options you will ensure they are accepted at the best school for their individual needs and talent.
Overpowering your child’s wishes!
On occasion, parents pressure their children to attend a particular college or choose a specific major. Gentle guidance is normal, but it’s important to take a step back at this stage. As your child approaches adulthood, encourage them to make their own decisions, and choose their unique path. If a parent pushes too hard, a student may find that they have enrolled in a program for which they are unsuited. Do support your child in selecting a major that they are truly passionate about. This will lead to a unique college experience, and in turn, a career in which they will flourish.
Comparing your kid to others
College admissions are competitive, and your child may be worrying about it throughout the college application process. Adding to that stress by comparing your child to others will only put unwarranted pressure on them. Pointing out the strengths and successes of other children won’t magically help yours to do well. Your child can’t suddenly become a whole new person to appeal to colleges. Instead, focus on unique strengths and successes and help them find ways to highlight those.
Not considering the cost
College is expensive. As your child is compiling a list of colleges, have a timely conversation about affordability. “What schools are feasible for you?”. “How do you plan to pay for college?”. “How do scholarship applications work?”. Where do I find scholarships that are suitable for me?”. This is an excellent time to identify which schools your family can and cannot afford and the long-term ramification of taking out a student loan. Sometimes this conversation can be challenging, but it’s necessary, to be honest about where you stand financially. This is the first step in developing a plan, no matter what you finally decide.